Thursday, October 11, 2012

The little things....

I certainly won't ever claim to be a relationship expert, seeing as how I've had exactly one serious boyfriend, turned husband. But, I will say that I'm a relationship expert about my own relationship.

After over 9 years together, 6 years of marriage, a baby, 4 house changes, 6 job changes and a partridge in a pear tree, it is easy to loose touch. We've done it before, and we may do it again.

It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day chores or only the major things like birthdays and anniversaries. What about the little ways to say I love you, to affirm to the other person that they are still you're everything and still important.

For us, that typically includes random text messages of love throughout the day. Or offering to make dinner.... or offering to walk up/down all the stairs to fetch things...

But, this week I got a totally surprising, small, but wonderful gesture that really brightened my day.

This little gem was hand delivered to my office by my hottie husband in his khakis and button down... for all the ladies of my office to see and drool with jealousy.

J had a meeting down the street from my office. I knew it was a full day and we probably wouldn't even be able to meet for lunch. bummer. 

While in a meeting at the front of the building with a window to the parking lot I see him drive up and get out, Starbucks in hand.

I've been swamped at work for about 3 weeks. And, being in fundraising and this being the end of the year, there doesn't seem to be an end in sight. Being busy (and successful) this time of year is called job security, but it also means me being really tired.

This kind gesture made my mostly female co-workers a little jealous and made my heart and belly smile. It was a really simple kind thing that made me know that I'm still his valued partner. it reminded me the importance of taking the time to go the extra mile and do something nice because we are partners. And sometimes one of us is down, or tired. It is my responsibility to help get them back to being their best self.

Be jealous ladies, he's all mine.
How are you showing your partner that they are valued and loved today?


  1. Appreciating the small things is so key to a great marriage. We have a dry erase "I love you because..." board in our bedroom that has been great for leaving little affirmations to each other. Last month, I did the 30 Day Encouragement Challenge for Husbands that someone posted in one of my mom's groups. It is Bible based and gives you something to think/pray/do for our husband to encourage him everyday. I did not tell A about it until after it was over. Even though we have a great marriage, it made a noticeable difference. I highly recommend it!

  2. That is such a great idea! I've actually been wanting an "I love you because" board for a while...

    For Valentine's Day this year I did a jar of 30 reasons I love you. Some were funny, some were sweet or romantic... but it was fun to write and fun to see him read each day...